It’s Mental Health Awareness Week, and as someone who has his fair share of issues in this field, I’m compelled to write. While the world has advanced in its understanding of mental health and it’s perhaps now easier to talk about the subject, we’re still not in utopia. It’s still not easy to sit here and say that I struggle with my mental health. I want to be honest and open about it, but that doesn’t come naturally. Talking about it can be exhausting and throwing this out into the world involves a level of trust I don’t always feel. But I’m still here typing, because I don’t think staying silent particularly helps. Silence just allows things to fester and mutate in the dark; silence just feeds the monster. And the ridiculous thing is there is no monster.
Mental illness is exactly that – an illness. It’s not an act of will, or someone getting over-emotional, it’s an issue with an individual’s brain chemistry or trauma response or whichever other squatter gets into the backrooms of our brains to vandalise the furniture. Someone is mentally ill because they’re ill, not because of a lack of emotional fortitude.
That illness can manifest in all sorts of ways – a rolling sense of anxiety and disaster, for instance, the nagging insistence that we’re only three minutes away from a cataclysm. Or picture days, weeks and months of depression wrapping someone in a thick, insulating fog made of anvils. Hair-trigger rage or hair-trigger self-loathing, or some volatile cocktail of the two. Strange thoughts like intruders lashing out when you least expect it. Name any one of a hundred different symptoms that our brains adopt as a strategy, because their primal wiring is more interested in surviving than thriving, creating a new, buggy operating system as a result. And that’s the frustrating thing about it all, because if you’ve got a broken leg, eventually you’ll realise you can walk again. Mental illness can rob us of that realisation and understanding, can rob us of a sense of what’s real, our imagination for what it’s like to be healthy.
It doesn’t help that we live in a world that’s being shaped by a media environment that wants our eyes locked on screens, because that’s where the sacred ad’s are, and that’s how they process our lives into a billion bits of monetised data. The tools that enable all this aren’t always conducive to mental health, and so we’re swimming in a sea where algorithmic waves keep us churning in their wake. At times like that, all you need to do is get out of the sea, but that’s easier said than done when it feels like you’re drowning.
There is hope though. From a Christian perspective, God is with us, even when we feel as though the world is twisting and shaking, even when we’re horribly aware that the foundations of our lives are riddled with vicious cracks. And I’m comforted that God often shows up in the middle of the turmoil, standing next to us in the maelstrom. When the prophet Elijah wanted to simply lie down and die rather than feel his crushing anxiety any longer, God encountered him in silence, but that was silence surrounded by an earthquake and a firestorm. Compared to that, the time I felt a sense of peace in the middle of San Francisco’s noisy and crowded Fisherman’s Wharf is small scale and unspectacular, but sometimes that’s enough. God is in the small places and small moments as well; sometimes we make God too big. And our theology loses something if we forget that Jesus went through agonising moments of fear and physical trauma, so much so that, when he appeared to the disciples following the resurrection, he still bore the scars and, as heretical an assumption as this may be, still remembered the emotional and mental anguish of the crucifixion. Worshipping a scarred God means that, when we reach out for the divine, we’re repaid with empathy and understanding.
Reaching out is easier said than done sometimes. There are times when our minds won’t allow us to string the words together, times when we can’t face the despair as our prayers bounce off the ceiling once again. At times like this it’s important that there are people out there willing to help and support us. Again, that’s when churches have to be intentional about taking mental illness seriously and the time for that isn’t just in the middle of someone’s deepest moment of crisis. It’s about providing sanctuaries, establishing communities to which people can escape when needed. People can’t just assume a community is safe because it’s linked to a church, we have to visibly and vocally live out that value, because for those who struggle, the mere act of asking for prayer requires mustering reserves of both courage and trust; at the same time, the pray-er needs to embrace the idea that coming alongside someone facing depression or anxiety may be more of a marathon than a sprint. God is a healer, and while we look at dramatic, instant recoveries as miracles, God often – perhaps more often – walks the longer path of medicine and therapy. I don’t deny that sometimes God miraculously liberates people from the things that hold them down through a dramatic and inexplicable move of the Spirit, and those moments are amazing to behold. But those moments are rarer than we’d like, and we’ve been given the knowledge of science and psychology for a reason.
So I’ve taken medication. I’m working with a therapist. Because this is something I need to do for my own sake and the sake of my family. My mental health issues impact my relationships, my career, the way I travel through the day-to-day. I’m haunted by mental illness and the exorcism is a journey that takes time, but it’s a journey God blesses. Things are falling into place, and I slowly understand myself more. The intrusive thoughts still scream at me; my heart is still weighed down by ghosts, real or imagined, but I trust that one day the screaming will stop, that one day the ghosts will fade with the daylight. In many ways, the scariest thing is not knowing who I am without them, but my faith is rooted in resurrection and rebirth and recreation. Those ideas still sing to me, even when I fail to believe in them; they’re the gentle lullabies that, as my healing continues, I can tune into beyond the static.
My name’s Matt and I suffer from mental illness. But my scarred God lets me know that mental illness isn’t my destiny, that eventually the lullabies will be louder than the storm.